my horoscope yesterday said that what i think is a bad situation may be an illusion and may indeed lead to a change i’ve been looking for. crossing my fingers this means the bf is ready to take the step to quit for good this time. we’ll see…
i’ve told him that i want to support his quitting in any way i can and that i know it’s hard and that everyone has “slip-ups” but that by the new year it will have been a year of trying and by the end of january i’ll need to really evaluate if i need to look for a new place to live when our lease is up in march.
yogamum, sometimes “harsh” is really just “true” and i appreciate your honesty.
see, i may be kidding myself here, but i think of it more as being honest than setting forth an ultimatum. (when i ended my previous six-year relationship he said he didn’t see it coming even though i said i was unhappy all the time – thus, i’ve learned to be straight-forward and honest no matter the cost). better to let someone know where you stand and let them make their decisions knowing the consequences.
so there it is.
cross your fingers for me – i love this man and i don’t want something so stupid take him away from me but i’m a smart enough cookie to know i have to love myself even more and if it comes to it i’ll have to make that hard decision for my own good.